Mother’s Day: A Day to Embrace Being Perfectly Imperfect


Artwork from two ponytails

I wrote the note below for Mother’s Day because I couldn’t stop thinking about how mothers can carry around a lot of guilt. We feel guilty for not doing enough. Guilty for doing too much.  Guilty when we let our frustration or anger get the best of us.  I’ve been trying hard to let go of all of this guilt and just enjoy the special moments as they come along. Moments like waking up to two little girls spilling over with excitement as they presented the gifts they’d made for Mother’s Day.

Perfectly Imperfect

As a daughter, I love my mom dearly.

As a mom myself, I love my children with a kind of love that I’d never known before they came into my life. A love that wants to protect, nurture and teach. A love that is fierce, strong and true.

But it is also a love that is perfect in its imperfections. Real motherly love has small scratchy, rough patches where you’ll sometimes find impatience, anger or annoyance.

It’s a test of wills. It’s a daily dance. It’s a marathon.

Motherhood is all about finding the energy and spirit to keep countless balls in the air, without dropping one . . . or not losing hold of “strong and true” mom to “tired and impatient” mom.

But it’s a battle worth fighting, an important role to play. It’s a job I’m proud to hold.

And, it makes me love my own mom even more . . . because I now know how much went into each and every milestone celebration, family meal and hard-learned life lesson along the way.

Today, love your mom . . . or remember fondly the mom you once loved and still hold in your heart. Love yourself. And most of all, love and accept being perfectly imperfect . . . because you’re certainly not alone.

To all of you who are mothers, daughters, grandmothers, aunties and friends, I wish you a very Happy Mother’s Day.

There’s no recipe today because, well, I think everyone needs at least one day off from the kitchen. Today, I highly recommend ordering in.

And before I sign off, I’d also like to apologize to all of my blogging buddies. I’m afraid that life has got in the way of commenting and posting lately. I promise I’ll be in touch soon.


37 Comments on “Mother’s Day: A Day to Embrace Being Perfectly Imperfect”

  1. Eva Taylor says:

    OMG, Barbie the girls look absolutely adorable! I love the dresses. Hope they took good care of you today.
    Your post is beautiful, brought a tear or two to my eye thinking about my own dear mother.

  2. ChgoJohn says:

    A wonderful post, Barb, and beautifully written. Your daughters are too cute for words and their photos make a perfect introduction to your post. I hope you are enjoying your Mothers Day.

  3. Charles says:

    Barb, you brought a big, manly tear to my eye! Your daughters are just so cute, and I told you before that they look so much like my sister when she was their age (they look really alike each other now too!). This post is so beautiful – love it :). Hope you had a wonderful day with your family!

  4. laurasmess says:

    This is such a beautiful post Barb. Your daughters are so lovely, and I can tell from their faces just how content and happy they are (meaning, you’re doing an amazing job!). I don’t have children yet but I definitely agree that, from all I’ve witnessed, mothering is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. Rewarding, yes, but exhausting, frustrating, occasionally thankless and never-ending. With a little bit of grown-up wisdom on my side I can see that everything my mother did was for my good. Whether I understood it at the time is another story! I love her more every day and I am grateful for everything she did… I feel bad that many of the lines on her face were probably etched by me (though she tells me that she wouldn’t have had it any other way!). I’m trying to give back as much as I can in love and thankfulness for her investment and wisdom in my life, though it’d never be enough! Happy Mother’s Day to you, beautiful woman. You’re amazing.

  5. Betty Edington says:

    Barb,I never realized how great you are at expressing yourself. Very well said and so very true. Your Mom is such an inspiration to me and I am thankful to have her in my life.As I looked at the picture of your girls, I was made even more aware of just how much Megan looks like you,especially when you were around her age.I know you and Kevin are very proud of them, as well you should be.They are the greatest gifts from God you will ever have!

  6. How beautiful, the post, your daughters, everything. Happy Mothers Day, I hope you had a glorious day!

  7. Norma Chang says:

    Happy Mother’s Day Barb. Lovely photos of your daughters. Beautifully written post, brought tears to my eyes.

  8. Saskia (1=2) says:

    Lovely lovely post Barb, and such a beautiful letter. Gorgeous photo of your ponytails in their matching dresses. My sister, mum and I often wore matching dresses too – mum wore the mini-skirt version! No need to apologise for not posting for a while (although we’ve missed you). I understand how hard it is balancing life/family/work – and blogging! Hope you had a lovely Mother’s Day and enjoyed your ordered-in dinner. You deserve it. xx

  9. The photo of two Precious Ones… priceless! Happy Mother’s Day!

  10. Lovely post! Hope you had a great Mother’s Day – well, with those two cuties how could it possibly have been otherwise? 😉

  11. Awwww this post was absolutely adorable 🙂

    Choc Chip Uru

  12. lvaletutto says:

    You have two beautiful little girls and I love the matching dresses!

  13. Carol Deschenes says:

    Beautiful! Hope you had a nice celebration. We had a perfect weekend here! We are lucky moms!!

  14. ohlidia says:

    Oh, how beautiful! You have expressed my exact sentiments!!! LOVE it!

  15. tmick says:

    Your girls are beautiful! Thanks for the great post for Mother’s day.

  16. Kristy says:

    I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day Barb! Look at those two precious faces. What a joy to wake up to on a Sunday morning. We had a similar scenario here. The kids had been holding onto their gifts for days with excitement. I just love it. Thank you for what you wrote. Sometimes we do let that guilt get the best of us and I need to get better at setting it aside as well. 🙂

  17. I hope you had a wonderful mother’s day Barb.
    Your post put a big smile on my face. It is always heart warming to know that I am not alone in being a perfect imperfection.Letting go of the guilt and constant worrying and focusing on enjoying the positive is something I always aim, somedays I can do it and others I fail mesirably, it is indeed as you said a marathon and to get through it you have to keep going.
    P.S. The picture of your ponytails is precious. I love their radient smiles

  18. mmmarzipan says:

    Beautiful girls and beautiful post! Hope you had the best day! x

  19. gotasté says:

    What a lovely and beautiful post..and the two angels are so pretty and charming 🙂

  20. I guess you’re had a happy live with so much love within….
    they are so cute and charming girls….

  21. Dina says:

    Wonderful post, goes right to the heart. Lovely Girls!
    Big hug from Norway

  22. What beautiful girls and they are moe than enough reason to take Mother’s Day off 🙂 Lovely post.

  23. Karen says:

    I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day. Thank you so much for sharing your note…it was delightful.

  24. Tandy says:

    Life is far more important than blogging. Make the most of it 🙂

  25. Beautiful post! My eyes were kind of misty reading it as I could not agree more about being a mom. Your girls are adorable. I bet you will cherish these photos and your hand made cards forever. Happy bleated mum’s Day. BAM

  26. Amy Tong says:

    This is a beautiful post with a wonderful message. Your girls are adorable and I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day celebration. 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

  27. How did I not see this before? What a beautiful post… all things well said! Your girls are absolutely precious!!

  28. Sophie33 says:

    Barb, such a lovely post & very well-written too! 🙂 The girls look cute too!

  29. cecilia says:

    Good morning, i was having a glass of wine with kristy tjhe other day and we were talking about your blog, so i thought i would pop over and say Hi, and look what i find.. two delightful girls! beautiful pics, fantastic sentiment.. celi

  30. Karista says:

    Oh what darling ponytails!! So adorable! A lovely Mother’s Day post Barb and as you notice it’s way past Mother’s Day and I’m just now reading the post. Life is busy and I certainly know how hard it is to comment on blogs. I often read them, chuckle, drool and hope that everyone is well but don’t often get the time to comment. This is my rare day off and I just had to stop by. So glad I did. 🙂 Have a lovely spring and summer Barb!

  31. This is wonderful! I read it when I was in Alabama with my mom for Mother’s Day, but have so little internet service there it’s almost impossible to comment. Your ponytails are adorable in their matching dresses.

    • Thanks Betsy! Nice to hear from you. I’ve been really struggling to keep up with everything lately and am missing the connection with you guys. I am excited because Kristy is coming to town next weekend and I’m meeting up with her and Eva …Kelly who I don’t know yet.

  32. Ali says:

    That is beautiful…your girls and mum are very lucky to have such a thoughtful and caring mum and daughter! Your girls are gorgeous too x

  33. That is so beautiful! and so are your little pony tails 🙂

  34. magnificent post–the test of wills, the daily dance, the marathon of motherhood. so moving…

  35. I’m so glad I didn’t miss this one.. your daughters are sooo adorable!! Seriously adorable! I loved your words of wisdom today, you’re so right.. we struggle with being perfect as mothers because we really want to be perfect for our little perfect babies. I’m glad to let go of that guilt! Thank you for writing this! xx

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